Resources

  • SEXUAL EDUCATION & COMMUNICATION

    Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski PhD

    Tongue-Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris

    Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

    The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin

    With Sprinkles On Top: Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect by Stefani Goerlich

    Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. Brotto

    Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power by Carolyn Elliott

    COUPLES CONCERNS

    Couples Therapy Workbook For Healing: Emotionally Focused Therapy Techniques To Restore Your Relationship by Lori Cluff Schade

    The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

    The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson

    The Space Between: The Point of Connection by Harville Hendrix PhD & Helen LaKelly Hunt PhD

    Monsters In Love: Why Your Partner Sometimes Drives You Crazy- And What You Can Do About It by Resmaa Menakem

    LGBTQIA+ IDENTITIES

    The Queer & Transgender Resilience Workbook: Skills for Navigating Sexual Orientation & Gender Expression by Anneliese Singh

    A Queer Dharma: Yoga and Meditations for Liberation by Jacoby Ballard

    Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angel Chen

    Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon & KD Diamond

    Tortilleras Negotiating Intimacy: Love, Friendship, and Sex in Queer Mexico City by Anahi Russo Garrido

    The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay In a Straight Man’s World by Alan Downs

    Later in Life Lesbian: Coming Out Later in Life & Leaving Fear, Overwhelm, & Guilt Behind by Annie M. Henderson

    Mouths of Rain: An Anthology of Black Lesbian Thought edited by Briona Simone Jones

    Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much by Jen Winston

    Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-spec Men by Vaneet Mehta

    Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw

    Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community by Laura Erickson-Schroth

    Letters For My Sisters: Transitional Wisdom In Retrospect edited by Andrea James & Deanne Thornton

    Letters for My Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited by Megan M. Rohrer & Zander Keig

    Trans: Gender and Race in an Age of Unsettled Identities by Rogers Brubaker

    POLYAMORY & NON-MONOGAMY

    Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

    The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships by Jessica Fern

    The Hearts of Being Polysecure: Creating Secure Attachments in Multiple Relationships by Jessica Fern

    Love In Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

    Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

    Mono in a Poly World: What to Do When Your Partner Is Polyamorous and You Aren't by Tazmyn Ozga

    Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson M.ED.

    The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton

    TRAUMA

    Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life by Holly Richmond

    The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk M.D.

    Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew

    The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz

    Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines

    The Courage To Heal: A Guide For Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis

    It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship by Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R. Hock

    #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing by Emily Joy Allison

    WEIGHT/BODY IMAGE

    Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail To Understand About Weight by Linda Bacon & Lucy Aphramor

    Perfectly Imperfect: Compassionate Strategies to Cultivate a Positive Body Image by Amy Harman LMFT CEDS

    Reclaiming Body Trust: A Path to Healing & Liberation by Hilary Kinavey MS, LPC & Dana Sturtevant MS, RD

    The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

    Fat Girls in Black Bodies: Creating Communities of Our Own by Joy Arlene Renee Cox PhD

    Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary L. McBride

    Oppression and the Body: Roots, Resistance, and Resolutions edited by Christine Caldwell & Lucia Bennett Leighton

  • Come As You Are

    Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

    Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon

    Better in Bed- A Sex and Sexuality Podcast

    Safeword Podcast

    Sex with Dr. Jess

    Man Enough Podcast

    The Erotic Philosopher

    Making Polyamory Work

    The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

    Sex Gets Real with Dawn Serra

    Straight White American Jesus with Bradly Onishi and Daniel Miller

    Sensual Self (formerly the Sexually Liberated Woman)

    Heathen Podcast

    Holy Ghosting

  • amaze - age-appropriate sex education for kids & advice for parents on how to talk to kids about sex (amaze.org)

    Scarleteen - sex and relationship education centering young people (scarleteen.com)

    Sex, etc - sex education for and by teens (sexetc.org)

    O.School - free sex education for adults (o.school)

    Beducated - sex education courses for adults (beducated.com)

    Afrosexology - sex education centering Black experiences of sexuality (afrosexology.com)

    Planned Parenthood - free sexual health education and medical service (including abortion care, hormone therapy, birth control, and STD/STI testing) (plannedparenthood.org)

    Kinkly - kink and BDSM education (kinkly.com)

    TransIntimate - education about trans and non-binary experiences designed for cisgender people

    Live Another Day - lists of addiction and mental health resources for specific communities like BIPOC and LGBTQ+ and co-occurring experiences like sexual assault and abuse.

    I Got Out Movement - The #igotout movement empowers survivors of high-control environments by building connections within a diverse and compassionate community

    Dare To Doubt - resource hub for people detaching from harmful belief systems

    The Fat Sex Therapist - information and resources on disability justice, sexual colonization, decolonial sexualities, healthism, and fat positive wellness

    Decoding You- an interactive guide to discovering your sexual sense of self

  • What to Actually Do About an Unequal Partnership: An interview with Kate Mangino (author of Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home) by Anne Helen Petersen

    Consent Culture: time to get into bed with liberation. by Dylan Wilder Quinn - adding important nuance to consent culture

    Move Over, Love Languages: Do You Know Your ‘Route of Safety’? by Gabrielle Smith - trauma informed "love languages"

    The Invention of Monogamy by Isabella Rotman and Sarah Mirk - history of monogamy in comic book style

    Everything You Know About Obesity Is Wrong by Michael Hobbes - debunking harmful myths about fatness and "obesity" with scientific evidence and calling for a new paradigm for talking about weight and size